First, I wish you well with your efforts to find a solution to your illness so you will truly feel fine. The stoicism you describe is something I as well as many people experience. When I returned to work the week after my mother died, my boss said, “How are you?” and I said, “Fine,” and the meaning was, you’re not going to cause trouble by getting emotional on me, are you? Of course I wasn’t fine but I knew the rules. In many situations, people really don’t care how you are, as long as you fulfull your role. It’s why you get paid, etc. And that’s not going to change. In close personal relationships, however, when adults tell children they shouldn’t cry, etc., it’s damaging. Thank you for this important piece.